practical parenting

The heaviest burden placed on human being is the need to believe that lifelong responsibility of parenting means hostage. When parents are forced to trade in their innate ability to make responsible decisions and children are robbed of their ability to become all they can be, Life grieves.

The saddest state of cruelty is that no one can responsibly shoulder this hefty load of impractical parenting alone or even as a couple or with a sturdy family tree or some ration or coupon or child welfare wafers and waivers. No one is truly free to become what s/he is to be while all the time yoked to some expectation imposed by some sully statute wanting and knowing what is best when the fact is Life alone knows. Eras later, still this burden continues to be heaved upon the backs of people whose primary role is simply to be a conduit, nurturer and provider while at the same time educating and preparing the child to become responsible and self reliant. Of course some children may grow and develop where they still need ongoing helpful guidance

Still I sometimes wonder, why did the God who created heaven not give birth to its children personally to ensure that children turn out just the way Life likes it so they can feel loved, wanted, worthy of life and the integrity to live it respectfully, without the need for such strong competitive force to make it through life impressively heroic or lest they get branded as weaklings and weak links worth less than a sparrow...then I figure that God of my understanding also has not been the one who gave parents such trying times of caring heaped with guilt of not being good enough in the first place and that something was evidently wrong with their inherited genes and with God's plan which they passed on to the children. To me, that has turned out to be the biggest bruiser I can imagine the heart of parents who are willing to appreciate the divine’s role of parenting are subjected to endure and still diehard creeps want to haul the pain of guilt and shame and blame on minds so they can point fingers of neglect in the opposite direction. God knows that too!

Now I understand Matthew’s mention of Jesus’ parables presented to the Pharisees of the Law. Now it makes sense why Solomon sanctioned responsible parenting and respectful discipline of children and cautioned children of reasonability of the child’s role as a child

And now I know why Life can use every vessel with honour, dignity and integrity even though I still cannot fathom to have an accurate account or answer as to why God does things the way God does things- like allowing so many children to teach such harsh lessons of reality and so many parents suffering the plight of responsible parenting. Some how though, Life can set the records straight, and does and will use the sparrows that are deemed to be worth less than a penny and the flowers that are hailed as more beautiful than Solomon's finest outfit and if it has to, also use the stones which the builders reject. That makes parenting a gift of humility presented by Grace to be proudly accepted and respected and this is as assuring as Life is confident and omnipotent